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Frustration Filter

Welcome back, bold explorer! You've successfully calibrated your internal compass. Now, get ready for a pivotal challenge to reveal the brilliant light of your authentic leadership. This mission is about honoring challenging experiences by turning them into unassailable clarity for your own leadership path. The "red flags" you've encountered are powerful catalysts, defining precisely the leader you are resolutely committed to becoming.

Consider the story of the Co-founder of BVisionRY. Just starting her career, she navigated an environment under a leader who micromanaged every detail, nagged relentlessly, and offered zero empathy. In that crucible of frustration, a powerful commitment was forged: "I promised myself, when I start leading people, I will be everything he is not."

This is the very essence of The Frustration Filter. Today, you are invited to transform those challenging observations into invaluable wisdom.

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Purpose of this task: 

This task is about forging your ultimate leadership shield and sword. The behaviors that triggered frustration, disconnection, or pain in your past are unmistakable signals guiding you towards your unique leadership ideal. By systematically identifying what you will not tolerate in leadership, you gain unparalleled clarity on what you will embody and champion.

Successfully navigating "The Frustration Filter" means:

  • Forging Your Anti-Vision: Clearly defining the leadership pitfalls you vow to avoid, creating a powerful contrast for your own path.
  • Harvesting Clarity from Conflict: Translating past moments of frustration into precise, actionable commitments for your future self.
  • Empowering Your Purpose: Channeling experience into a deeper, unshakeable resolve to lead with intention and integrity.
  • Refining Your LDP Blueprint: Adding essential, hard-won wisdom to your personalized Leadership Development Plan, ensuring it reflects your core commitments.


The process for completing this task:

It’s time to confront the detours and distill them into powerful clarity. Your insights from this task will directly inform the foundational principles of your personalized Leadership Development Plan. Your submission for Task Two will be a new tab in your existing Google Sheet.

Step 1: Recall Frustrating Leadership Behaviors (The Red Flags) Think of specific instances where you observed leadership behaviors that significantly frustrated you, caused disconnection, or hindered progress. These could be from former managers, colleagues, public figures, family members, friends or anyone in a position of influence.

  • Focus on the behavior, not the person. What did they do or not do?
  • Examples: "Publicly criticizing team members without offering support," "Consistently micromanaging tasks without empowering decisions," or "Making impulsive decisions without consulting relevant experts."

Step 2: Analyze the Impact (The Resonance Chamber) For each "Red Flag," briefly explain why it resonated so negatively with you. What was the specific impact of that behavior on you, your team, or the situation?

  • Example: "Publicly criticizing team members without offering support" frustrated me because it eroded trust, created an environment of fear, and ultimately stifled creativity within the team.

Step 3: Identify the Opposite (The Alchemist's Transmutation) For each "Red Flag" behavior, identify its direct positive counterpart. What is the positive leadership quality, skill, or competency you wish that leader had demonstrated instead? Give it a clear, impactful name.

  • Example 1: The opposite of "Publicly criticizing" could be "Empathetic & Accountability."
  • Example 2: The opposite of "Avoiding difficult conversations" could be "Courageous Candor."
  • Example 3: The opposite of "Blaming external factors" could be "Ownership & Responsibility."

Step 4: Use an AI to Accelerate Your Insights If you find yourself stuck, you can use an AI tool (like Google Notebook, Chat GPT, or Gemini) as your brainstorming partner. Simply provide the tool with the frustrating behavior you’ve identified and ask it to suggest its positive counterpart.

  • Example Prompt: "As a leadership development coach, generate a comprehensive list of skills and competencies that are missing for someone (ADD THE RED FLAG). For each skill, provide a short, clear description of how it helps reverse the (ADD THE RED FLAG). The goal is to provide a detailed, actionable list for a leader's development plan."
  • Your Role: Use the AI’s suggestions as a starting point. Review the list and select the skills and competencies that resonate most with you.


The work you will submit:

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Your submission for Task Two: The Frustration Filter will be a new tab in your existing LDP Google Sheet. This will be your "Frustration Inventory."

To complete this task, follow these steps:

One- Access the Template: Click this link to open the Google Sheet. Once opened, go to File > Make a copy to create your own editable version. Rename your copy to something like "Date_YourName_LDP."

Two- Copy the Content: Select all the cells within the template, copy them, and then navigate back to your master LDP Google Sheet.

Three- Create and Rename a New Tab: In your master LDP Google Sheet, click the "plus" sign to add a new tab. Paste the copied cells into this new tab and then rename it "Frustration."

Four- Fill Out Your Inventory: In your new tab, fill out the columns based on your insights from this task:

  1. Column A: Frustrating Behavior (The Red Flag): List the specific behaviors you identified.
  2. Column B: Impact of this Behavior: Explain why this behavior was frustrating to you.
  3. Column C: Desired Leadership Quality (The Opposite):  Identify the positive leadership quality you wish you had seen instead. You can use an AI tool to help you brainstorm these qualities if you wish.
  4. Column F: Final Skills Set & Competencies: In this column, consolidate your findings by looking for patterns and removing duplicates to create a final, clear inventory.

Five- Final Review: Take a moment to review all fields to ensure they are complete. The sheet saves automatically.

    Six- Submit Your Work:

    • Click the "Share" button in the top right corner of your master LDP Google Sheet.
    • Change the sharing setting from "Restricted" to "Anyone with the link."
    • Set the access to "Editor."
    • Click "Copy link" and paste it into the Lighthouse submission portal.

    We eagerly await your task report!